Is It Inappropriate to Call Kids ‘Sexy’?

“You look sexy!” exclaims my neighbor to my 6-year-old daughter. I laugh uncomfortably because though I know she’s showing some knee, I’d never call her sexy. She’s cute. Kids are cute. They’re not doing anything to warrant sexual attention. My daughter looks at me confused because we’ve had conversations about the word "sexy" in the past, ...

Black Lotus: The Best Memoir On Racial Identity This Year.

“How do you stop a n***er from jumping on the bed?” asked Sil Lai Abrams’ younger sister. “You put Velcro on the ceiling!” As they both roared with laughter, Sil Lai’s father came charging into the room and said, “I don’t know why you’re laughing, Sil Lai, you’re one,” stopping them in their tracks. This is how ...

For Dads Planning To Have The Sex Talk With Daughters

The other day I was explaining to my 6-year-old daughter why a friend’s dog had been humping her leg, and the next thing you know it turned into a talk about where babies come from. Though I managed to keep it simple enough to satisfy her curiosity, I know that she’ll be back. As I ...

This Episode Of KC Undercover Is Black Girl Magic On Steroids!

What do you get when you combine two Black women writers (Raynelle Swilling and Teri Schaffer, “The Cleveland Show”), a Black woman director (Nzingha Stewart, NAACP Image Award nominated Lifetime movie, “With This Ring”) and Zendaya, one of TV’s most popular Black women leads? One groundbreaking episode of “K.C. Undercover.” If you’ve never watched the highly-rated ...

What Lessons Are You Passing On To Your Kids?

“When am I going to start dance lessons?” my 6-year-old daughter asks me at the park, soon after discovering that her new friend just came from ballet class. “We’ll see,” I tell her. “That’s what you said the last time.” “I know,” I reply. While she runs back to the monkey bars, I’m left with a horrible feeling in ...